Views: 1 Author: Kare Anderson Publish Time: 2019-12-20 Origin: Site
In order to be successful in sales, or in life, it is important that you are able to connect with others. Qualities like empathy, sympathy, vulnerability, transparency, etc., are all useful in drawing connections with others, specifically when they are genuine because they make you human. They show your prospect that you are in fact a real person and that you are there to make their lives easier in some way.
Hidden behavior cues
Refer to yourself instead of listing and bust
Active listening vs. cognitively understanding
Moving From Me to We – Succeed and Savor Life with Others
These cues can impact people sometimes in unconscious ways. In sales, it is vital to notice these sorts of cues so that you know the best path to connect with your prospect. When emotion rises, everyone reacts in a certain way physically. Whether it’s body language, change in tone, etc., it is important to be aware of these sometimes hidden cues. If you are trying to look more open and compassionate while connecting with your prospect, try lifting your eyebrows. This action is simple but can make a huge difference.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is referring to yourself more than listening to the prospect’s needs or asking follow-up questions. If you aren’t listing or asking questions, it can come off as if you are talking at them, rather than sharing a common goal or interest. The goal of your conversation should be to find a common interest in what you are trying to sell them, or even just talk about so that you can share in the conversation together. Talking about yourself comes off as not being interested in the other person and will not spark the response that you are looking for.
There is a difference between listening to what someone is saying and being able to cognitively understand that to be able to carry on a conversation. In order to cognitively understand, you need to be able to see and feel the experience that the other person is talking about. When trying to cognitively understand, getting specifics is vital because it will really help you truly understand with examples so that you can better serve the conversation and help reach the same end goal.
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To learn more about how to connect better with others, watch the entire expert sales interview. If you would like to read Anderson’s book, it is available on Amazon.